Akhirah Deficit Disorder by Imam Suhaib Webb – The Summary

We had the greatest night on Tuesday last week when we attended imam Suhaib Webb’s lecture in Kelab Golf Perkhidmatan Awam (KGPA) in Damansara. It was a pleasant surprise to see that most of the people who attended are professionals of ages 25-35 years old. The only setback of the night is that there were not enough space (which is actually a good sign because so many people attended the lecture), otherwise it went smoothly.

 

The lecture topic was given by Young Muslims Project, the organisation that arranged the lecture that day. Imam Suhaib mainly spoke about akhirat in the Quran, and the lessons that I managed to get are as follows:

 

1. You can find no page in the Quran, except with akhirat being mentioned in it.

 

2. Al Quran is a miracle sent down to our beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW. The contents has never been changed, abridged, altered in its 1400+ years history, the care of its contents has been promised by Allah SWT, meaning that it will never, never be altered. It is a miracle because it remains relevant to all human beings of all ages for all time.

 

3. There are contents in the Quran that’s fixed, rigid, for example about our daily solat, sawm, performing hajj, aurat, and zakah. To name a few.

 

4. There are also contents in the Quran that is open to interpretation. For example, Allah SWT has ordered us to be nice. We are told to be nice to our parents, our family, partners, neighbours, animals. But He didn’t tell us how. It’s up to us to find out how to be nice to people/animals/trees around us. Of which the issue of relevance come to play.

 

5. A da’ie, religious teachers, parents, everyone, in fact, need to be relevant. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW approached different group of people differently; the educated intellectuals, the business people, the labourers all have different levels of intelligence and experience and views of life, hence need to be handled differently. It has been also stated (for this, I’m not very sure whether it is Prophet Muhammad SAW who said it himself, or was it someone else), that we are not to raise our children the way we were raised. Because their time is different from our time.

 

6. Obviously there were no televisions during my grandmother’s time, the world was at war, the country was at war. My parents grew up when the country was developing. I grew up during Mahathir’s time (which is an era of its own), and my sister? It’s the age of Blackberries and iPhones and iPads and Justin Bieber, K-pop etc. The challenges are different.

 

7. Hence the need for relevant scholars and teachers who do not ponder about the time when there were no this and no that. Who do not wish to go back in time but instead tackle the current problems, current issues. Hence the need for scholars who do not judge us youngsters just because our life is more comfortable. They need to understand that, although, yes, our lives are more comfortable now (and so are theirs); yes, we need to be thankful for that; we do have our own challenges.

 

8. He quoted the surah Al Layl and taught us the meanings behind the words, the arrangements, the meanings. Not just literal translations. About the fact that surah Al Layl comes before surah As Shams. The fact that everyone in this whole wide world faces their own challenges. EVERYONE. The challenges are as different as night and day. Different, but in essence, they are challenges. It’s a jihad, a fight, for ALL of us. Nobody is excluded. Hence, again, the importance of being relevant.

 

9. Allah SWT has reminded us again and again and again about akhirah, for which we could find no pages in the Quran that doesn’t mention about it. Akhirah is the target, the aim. Dunya, life, is the means. Dunya is NEVER a target, always a method to achieve the target. It is by focusing on the Hereafter, that we could achieve happiness in this world and there too. It is by focusing on the Hereafter, that we could really live in peace in this world.

 

10. Which brings me to another lesson: promotion. Allah SWT has promoted akhirah so much in the Quran, showing us how important it should be in our life. How important it is to be focused on our success in the Hereafter. By reading the Quran, we are reminded daily, and therefore work hard daily, for our success.

So if we were to guide our children, our siblings, family, friends, junior workers, we need to promote the important points, the things that matter. Remind them daily, frequently, showing them how important a certain thing is. Be it about littering, about needle-stick injury, about prayers before meals, taking wudhu’ before sleep, aurat, tying up your hair when you’re in the kitchen….anything at all. Allah SWT has taught us about persistence.

 

11. To be a good Muslim, we must not isolate ourselves from the world. We should not think that for fear of ruining our iman, we shall not mix with other people. We should have faith in Allah, faith in ourselves. How do we know our iman is strong enough without being challenged? If we have knowledge about Islam, then we have to spread it. How do we spread our knowledge without mixing with others? How relevant are we if we only stick to ourselves?

 

12. Being all about current issues and problems doesn’t mean not appreciating old ideas. Of course we learn from, and about, old scholars too. There are problems in the past which may and still have relevance at this day and age.

 

13. Be nice to your parents. Imam Suhaib had problems memorizing the Quran when he first started in Al Azhar. His teacher told him to be nice to his parents. So he did. Only after that he was able to absorb the Quran, page by page. Only after being nice to his mother that things became easier. Yes, even though she’s a Catholic. She’s still his mother.

 

14. Americans, and many others in the world these days, think that parents are not so important after the age of 18. People move out of their houses, staying with parents are frowned upon, parents’ opinion is not saught after when choosing a life partner, when one is getting married, and sometimes aren’t even invited to the wedding. In Islam, parents are the 2nd most important people in a person’s life (first is our beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW). Mothers are three times more important than fathers because of her sacrifices in pregnancy, giving birth and raising the children with love. Imam Suhaib has shown that parents are still relevant, still important, even in the US. Parents still feel touched by their children’s kindness to them. They may not want to be suffocated withtoo much care and concern, they may need their own space, but still, kindness from their own offspring is always appreciated. It is human nature.

He has shown that the Quran reveals words of truth, and our beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW delivers only the truth. The truth that remains until the end of time.

 

I don’t know much of his biography. I was introduced to him by Wardina Safiyyah via her tweets. All I know about him is that he hails from Oklahoma, studied Education for his diploma, converted to Islam at the age of 20 (or 22?), graduated from Al Azhar, and married a Malaysian lady. He hosts the programme Reflection in TV Al Hijrah (channel 114 on Astro).

 

I guess the fact that Imam Suhaib Webb is so popular among younger generation is because our population is so Americanised. We watch too much TV, we spend too much time online (which is not really a bad thing), we dress like the Americans. Perhaps we do need an American imam who could guide us on how to face the world, which is, without borders. We live in our own country, our own coccoon, but we could see the whole world from where we are now.

 

I know, this summary is not good enough to explain the contents of his lecture. It doesn’t do him justice. But this is it.

 

For more, check out www.SuhaibWebb.com.

Faith In Prayers

Have you ever wanted something so much, that you keep on working and praying hard for it with all your heart?

Have you ever wanted something so much, but nothing happens, but you keep trying anyway?

Have you ever thought of quitting, but then start working hard again because you reason to yourself that “the thing I wanted could just be around the corner”?

Well, I have.
It takes a lot of courage to put an effort.
And it takes a lot of faith to keep on praying.

But we just HAVE to pray, to ask from God, because without Him, where else in the world would we get the strength?
How do we push forward without Him?

Maybe He hasn’t granted our wishes is simply because it’s not time yet?
Maybe He’s telling us that we are definitely not ready for what we’re praying for.
Maybe we didn’t get what we want because we give up asking at the first place.

It does take a lot of faith to keep on asking, to keep on praying.
We shouldn’t give up praying, the same way we should not give up trying.

Written on 19th March 2011 @ 0201hrs

Tests

I may have written about this a few times before, but I’m going to write about it again anyway.

 

Some of my good friends are going through difficult times in their lives. It brought me back to my own past.

 

Well, when bad things happen, we’d wonder how we’d go through all that. Somehow we do. Even after everything has settled, we’d still wonder, how did we ever go through all that? How was it even possible?

 

As a Muslim, I do believe that things happen for a reason. A good reason. And I’m sure everyone else believes that too.

 

We believe that if God wants us to become a better person, a good person, He’ll let us go through some trials and tribulations.

If God loves us, He’s give more attention to us, and He does that by testing our strength and integrity.

By testing our faith.

 

It’s the same thing as exams.

If someone were to say he’s good at something, he’ll need to prove it.

If the examiner knows that it’s not worthwhile testing, he’ll stop after only a few questions.

 

I found out today, that past experience would teach us to help others.

To be there for our loved ones when they need us.

 

Those dark episodes in the past help us with understanding life better.

Look at life in a different perspective.

Help us listen more and makes us comprehend the importance of listening.

 

They teach us to count our blessings. Even during the darkest days.

 

I’m thankful that despite whatever that has happened, my life is still quite simple.

Not too complicated.

 

I thank God for helping me through all this, guiding me towards a better life.

 

I thank God that I have my parents, my brothers and my little sister.

My aunts and uncles and cousins.

My dear friends who loves me as I am.

 

 

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Menapak jalan yang menjauh

Tentukan arah yang ku mau

Tempatkan aku pada satu peristiwa yang membuat hati lara

 

Di dekat engkau aku tenang

Sendu matamu penuh tanya

Misteri hidup akankah menghilang dan bahagia dia akhir cerita…..?

 

Cinta,

Tegarkan hatiku

Tak mau sesuatu merenggut engkau

Naluriku berkata, tak ingin terulang lagi

Kehilangan cinta, hati bagai raga tak bernyawa

 

Aku junjung petuahmu

Cintai dia yg mencintaiku

Hatinya dulu berlayar, kini telah menepi

Bukankah hidup kita akhirnya harus bahagia….?

 

Cinta,

Biar saja ada

Yang terjadi biar saja terjadi

Bagaimana pun hidup hanya cerita

Cerita tentang meninggalkan dan yang ditinggalkan

 

Cinta….

 

Written on 7th March 2011 @ 2307hrs

 


 

Mak

Bila putus cinta dengan boyfriend

Mak ada

Bila keguguran

Mak ada

Bila putus kasih dengan suami

Mak ada

Bila sakit

Mak ada

Bila susah

Mak ada

Tapi kalau mak dah tak ada nanti….macam mana…?

Sebab tu kena lebih dekat dengan Allah daripada dengan mak

Sebab Allah akan sentiasa ada

Walaupun semua orang yang kita sayang sudah pergi

Semoga kita semua mendapat kekuatan daripada-Nya dalam mengharungi semua cabaran dalam kehidupan.

Written on 6th March 2011 @ 2301hrs

 


World Filled With Love Part 3: In Search of Inspiration

I don’t know why I just can’t focus tonight. I feel like I have ran out of motivation. Nothing could push me forward, and the only thing that I feel like doing tomorrow is to clear up my room, my desk, my kitchen, and sleep.

 

I do have a lot to do. But I don’t want to do anything.

 

So I’m in search for inspiration. I browsed through my nature photos. I listened to Maher Zain’s InsyaAllah repeatedly. I prayed. Now Anuar Zain’s Semua Untukmu is on my youtube. Then I remembered my time in Penang.

 

Hmm…

 

There’s a person who’s always pushing me to do my best, to be hardworking, to be responsible.

A person who’d say don’t worry about mistakes and don’t worry about what others would say but to follow my heart and do what’s need to be done at that point of time.

A person who told me to push forward no matter what.

A person who’s always have something good to say about someone.

Scolds another person just because he’s concerned. That person doesn’t have to be close to him.

A person who’s on my side when the worst happened.

He’d correct the other person when the other person is wrong. No matter who that person is.

 

Thinking of him, I feel obliged to work harder. He’s given too much.

 

And another person.

His motivational stories in between teaching and work issues.

Even when it’s late, when the sun has set and everyone’s gone home.

His energy, passion and determination.

His pride that he tried so hard to hide.

Pushing me forward with a way that’s so subtle and gentle I’d barely see it until long after.

 

Two very successful men.

They are not very rich, I know.

They lead a simple life, drive simple cars, wear simple clothes.

From the outside many may not think that they are successful.

But to those who see deeper than cash, they will be able to comprehend.

 

Enough to motivate me for the night.

We’ll see what tomorrow brings.

 

Thank you, Allah, for giving me the chance to be around these two great teachers.

 

Written on 6th March 2011 @ 0117hrs.

 

On Behalf of Mommy Dearest

I’m writing this to my Muslim male friends who are about to be married, are married, or no plans yet but will be married someday.

It’s not easy to make anyone understand where this is coming from, and maybe, as always, some might say this is more emotional than anything else.

Maybe.
But you have to know that emotions are part of a human being, and they are processed in the brain, ok…of course, the location is below the site where logical thinking is situated. But still, it’s part of us, men and women.

Back to the topic.

We all know when a lady marries a man, the man automatically becomes the centre of her life, after Allah SWT and Rasulullah SAW. She is to obey his words, fulfill his needs and wants, and make him happy.

The ego of a person who suddenly ‘owns’ another person’s life (and death) sometimes makes him forget that:
(1) he has to support her life at all aspects, including making her happy, treating her gently with love and respect, the way our beloved Prophet did, and
(2) she had a family before her life with him.

So I’m talking about point number two.

I’m not saying that this happens to everyone but it IS a know fact that it occurs in our everyday life.

A man who thinks that his wife doesn’t need to visit her own mother so often because she’s married to him.

A man who doesn’t like his wife asking him permission to meet with her mother and family members because she should make HIM a priority.

A man, and his mother, who’d query “why would she miss her family when WE are her family now, and we are treating her very well?”

A mother who doesn’t think her son’s mother-in-law is an important person too?

If you want to talk about logic…

Does it not make sense that a lady might just miss the person who loves her most, that is her mother? Even when she knows that her husband is central to her life now?

Does it not confirm to any logic that after about 25 years of being with her mother, she will ALWAYS be in her heart?

It is important for a lady to keep in touch with her mother – she’s the one who understands her the most, and if anything were to happen to the lady, to the marriage, it is HER MOTHER who’s going to be there for her!

Well, do you notice that when a lady is in labor, she’ll not be calling anyone else’s name but her own mother? Not her husband, not her mother-in-law, not her father, and sometimes not even God, but her mother.

Logically speaking, wouldn’t a man want to appreciate the person who’s made his beloved wife the way she is? Wouldn’t he want to admire the person who taught his wife cooking, and more importantly caring for a husband and his kids?

Wouldn’t it make a lady happy when she gets to meet up with her mother once in a while? A happy wife will make her husband happy, right?

How would YOU yourself feel, if your beloved sister gets married and you very rarely get to see her because her husband “owns” her life now? Wouldn’t YOUR mother be heartbroken?

 

Written on 26th February 2011 @ 2304hrs

Loud

For some reason I don’t feel at ease with myself lately.

My posts/comments recently have either been too preachy or too loud. Or angry.

People do say “practice what you preach”.
And obviously I need a lot of reminders…hmmm…

But then again I believe that sharing is caring – when one has a good thought or advice, it is nice to share it with others. It does not only remind others but it serves to teach one’s ownself about good deeds.
And I do believe that you get back what you give.

I used to be afraid of giving advice to other people because I don’t want to be the kind of person who doesn’t walk my talk.
Who am I to give out good advice when I’m not perfect myself?
I’m as bound to make mistakes as the next human being is.

But it’s nice to share good things, right?

Notice that there’s a lot of the word “I” used in this post.
I know the world is not all about ME but THIS post is about me. Heheh.

I just want to say sorry for any hurt/hard feelings anyone may have felt.
Any distaste everyone may have experienced.
I’m sorry if you’re taken aback by my “loudness”.

There are some things that would touch a sore spot in me.
There are times that I just want myself heard, and I’m sorry for shouting.

But I wouldn’t stop sharing nice things with you.

 

Written on 21st February 2011 @ 2338hrs

When We Ask For His Help

In simple language.
Whenever we say our prayers to ask for Allah’s help, any of these things will happen:
(1) Our wishes granted
(2) It becomes His Forgiveness to our past sins
(3) He will replace what we ask for with something even better
(4) He will protect us from misfortunes

But if we don’t say our prayers to ask Him for His help, what will happen?
Good things will still happen, but not as frequent as if we say it all the time.

 

Written on 16th February 2011 @ 2228hrs

A Search For Love

I was talking to a friend the other day; well, I’ve been talking to a few friends recently, about a search for true love (I could see some of you smirking there…), about a search for a life partner.

Just for a second there..I do believe there is true love. Thing is, I also believe that it doesn’t happen to everyone.

True love and “meant-to-be-ness” is as mysterious as death itself. Nobody would ever know what lies in front of them, what will happen in the future; distant or near.

Questions upon questions would be asked, but no one could give an answer.

How do we know he’s the one?

How do we know he’s never going to betray us?

How do we know he’s going to be a responsible person but at the same time fun to be with? Is he only responsible and nice but boring, or is he all fun but nothing else?

How do we know whether he’s going to be our best friend, or is he going to plays ranks saying “I’m the man and you’re the wife”? Not even “MY wife”?

How do we know whether it’s the similarities or the differences that will actually make the bond stronger?

Is there such a thing as two people who are too similar that they just can’t live with each other?

What do we want out of a relationship, a marriage?

Maybe one of the reasons marriages fall apart is because there’s just no common ground about the reasons and focus of the relationship itself.

Enough to make a person scared to take the next step?

Even more frightening when one has gone through some pretty bad experience, isn’t it?

Working for people at the end of life made it evident that there are single people who are not lonely on their death bed, and there are married people with kids but ends up left alone when they are dying…”Is marriage really worth all the heart ache?” one wonders.

Really, what do we want out of marriage?

Someone to love, to care, to cherish until death do us part?

Being best friends, companions, soul mates?

Someone to help out with the house chores? Or our parents’ house chores? Really?

Emm…just for fun?

How do we know?

We’ll never know.

Well, being afraid to love means that most likely we’re not going to be loved back.

Take the risk, follow our hearts and maybe someday, someone out there will love us back, and maybe it will be worth all the while.

.  .  .

A little bit on marriage in Islam, and what I believe.

Islam strongly forbids sex outside marriage, and forbids us from getting even close to that.

Marriage serves as a means to emotional and physical gratification.

Marriage is a solemn agreement that should not be taken lightly, entered into with total commitment. There are many specific guidance, rules and law, so that nobody in the marriage should oppress the other, or in simpler term, “bully”.

That adds to another question, “does the man/woman one chooses actually understands Islam, or does he/she goes by the routines too blindly without understanding the meaning of it all?” That is, I think, the biggest question of all.

We believe that Allah SWT is The One who knows of all the heart’s contents. Only He knows the unseen, as stated in this verse in the Quran:

“And with Him are the keys of Unseen, none know them but He. And He knows whatever is there in the earth and in the sea. Not a leaf falls but by His knowledge; there is not a grain in the darkness (or the depth) of the earth, nor any flesh or dry (green or withered) but is written in a Clear Record.” [Surah al-An'aam (6): 59]

We are encouraged to seek guidance from Him, not only in matters of the heart but also in other life decisions too.

I would like to share this quote I found online (islamicthinking.tumblr.com):

“The best love story for a Muslim is finding another Muslim who makes their Iman rise, makes them want to gain knowledge and become more pious. What is more blessed than that?”

 

The Prophet In Our Hearts

It is a known fact that our beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW is the most influential man in the world.

 

Yes, despite him being physically absent.

 

Just imagine,

A man whose actions and words are copied by millions of Muslims around the world, through the ages.

Followed by Muslims of any regions, race, colour, gender, age.

And without knowing it, people of other religions too.

 

His words and deeds become guidance for our daily life.

Since a person is born, until he passes on.

Since he wakes up, until he goes to bed.

 

The way he speaks – kind words full of wisdom, spoken gently.

The way he deals with others – diplomatic, with respect.

The way he carries himself – with manners nobody could ever be offended by.

 

The way he talks, walks, eats and drinks.

The way he treats women and children – kindly and tender.

The way he loves animals, treating them like humans too.

 

The way he lives his life – in simple and humble ways.

 

His patience, preseverance, his love.

 

He spreads Islam not with a sword.

But with kind, wise words.

And of course, with Words of Allah.

 

Is there any other man in this whole world, since its beginning, whose words and actions are being followed, whom millions of people aspire to be like, who is loved and prayed for, even when he is long gone?

 

Is there any other man in this whole world, since its beginning, who is loved and prayed for, when millions of people have never actually met in person?

 

He’s here in our hearts.

Some a lot, some not much.

One may burn all the books about him, but he’s alive in our soul. Nobody could take that away from us.

 

Alhamdulillah, praise the Lord for sending us this sacred human being.

Thank you, Allah, for the gift of eternal light in the form of the Quran and His Prophet.

 

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May I put in what Mahatma Ghandhi says about him:

“I wanted to know the best of one who holds today’s undisputed sway over the hearts of millions of mankind….I became more than convinced that it was not the sword that won a place for Islam in those days in the scheme of life. It was the rigid simplicity, the utter self-effacement of the Prophet, the scrupulous regard for his pledges, his intense devotion to this friends and followers, his intrepidity, his fearlessness, his absolute trust in God and in his own mission. These and not the sword carried everything before them and surmounted every obstacle. When I closed the 2nd volume (of the Prophet’s biography), I was sorry there was not more for me to read of the great life.”

 

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Many of us, me included, have a very long way to go, to prove our love for our Prophet. Let’s begin to do it, pray for Allah’s help. May Allah show us the way, and Give us the strength to get there.

 

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Do you know that it was Prophet Muhammad’s wisdom that told us to wash our hands before and after seeing a sick person?

Now it’s practiced in ALL hospitals throughout the world.

 

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